Relationship Musings

People seem to think that relationships on any level, whether it'd be friendship or relationships with a boyfriend or girlfriend are supposed to be easy. I'm not sure why any sane person thinks that at all. Not even a relationship with a pet is easy, even pets that are housed in tanks or cages. So why is that people think relationships are going to be easy. Who the heck wrote that book? I sure as heck didn't nor did I read it thoroughly because if I did I'm sure I'd be so much better at relationships.

Relationships are complicated. Sometimes I wonder if they are complicated by nature or whether or not we as humans make them complicated? It's probably a combination of both. By nature a relationship of any kind is a two way street, but we as humans aren't always aware of that fact that we take advantage of it and put the effort that is needed to be in the relationship.

Plus there are three types of people in the relationship. The selfish ones, the giver, and the team player. If one is lucky then you'd get the team player. I call this person the team player because that is the person that is always in your corner and the person that is 50/50 even partnership in the relationship.

Sometimes though you get the selfish one. The one where it's essentially my world and you are just living in it. Then there are those who are the other end of the selfish, the giver. For the most part these two paired together in the same relationship (such has been my experience though?). The giver is the one that keeps over-looking the other selfishness of the other and continuously still giving. The problem that the giver seems to have is that after time they get tired of being the only one giving. After a time they need to be shown the same consideration and love that they themselves have been showing to the other person in the relationship.

And yet relationships are how you find out about the person that you are. What you can handle, what you're looking for in life. Relationships don't always work out and last the way that people want them too, but a lot of the time there is a lesson in there somewhere. That is life though always trying to teach us lessons even if we don't want to be taught any.

Relationships though never easy are sometimes really rewarding. On top of learning who you are, they (if you find the right person/people to be part of your life) will allow to have some amazing memories, along with laugh, be shoulders to cry on, and much more.

So sometimes when you think there is nothing good about relationships remember the good then re-evaluate as to whether or not it's a good relationship or not.